Dr. William Glasser's 1998 book, Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom, is the primary text for all that is taught by William Glasser International. Choice theory psychology states that:
In practice, the most important need is love and belonging, as closeness and connectedness with the people we care about is a requisite for satisfying all of the needs.
Choice Theory psychology, with the Seven Caring Habits, replaces external control psychology and the Seven Deadly Habits. External control, the present psychology of almost all people in the world, is destructive to relationships and mental health. When used, it will destroy the ability of one or both to find satisfaction in that relationship and will result in a disconnection from each other. Being disconnected is the source of almost all human problems such as what is called mental illness, drug addiction, violence, crime, school failure, and spousal abuse, to mention a few.
|Seven Caring Habits||Seven Deadly Habits|
|1. Supporting||1. Criticizing|
|2. Encouraging||2. Blaming|
|3. Listening||3. Complaining|
|4. Accepting||4. Nagging|
|5. Trusting||5. Threatening|
|6. Respecting||6. Punishing|
|7. Negotiating differences||7. Bribing, rewarding to control|